When you were seven years old, what did you want to be when you grew
up? Believe it or not, taking this nostalgic journey back to a simpler
time may be exactly what you need to begin the career defining or career transition
process. Why? Because your instincts at that age while play acting,
before the "should, would, coulds" began to impact your choices
(hint – someone else's influence) are the first clues to our natural
career interests and skills we must use to be happy.
When I
was seven, like many of us, I wanted to be a teacher. I used to force
my four year old brother to sit down at a "desk" while I doled out the
assignments and used my precious blackboard to "teach" him the lesson
for the day. My desire to become a teacher
stuck with me through college. After I got my Bachelor's Degree I
took another year to become a certified secondary education teacher
(required in California). I was 25 at the time and once I completed my
course began to look for teaching jobs.
Like today, jobs were not plentiful, but I also learned, while I
enjoyed teaching, I did not enjoy teaching high school students. They
were too close to being my peers at the time. So I gave up on teaching
until I entered the Vocational/Career Counseling field at 29.
My
desire for teaching never left me, however. What I realized is teaching
takes many forms and does not always take place in front of a
classroom. I love to lead workshops, to give talks, to lead groups,
and to teach through my counseling. From age seven, the teaching is a
recurring theme in everything I do.
I challenge you to really
examine what you enjoyed play acting as a child and see if there is a
connection today to your work-related interests. It may seem like a
stretch, but if you really examine it, there is a very good chance you
will see a correlation. If you do not have Career Happiness, you may
want to see how far you've strayed from your seven year old career
dreams.
In the work I do, I ask my clients to write stories
about a time at any point in their lives when they accomplished
something they felt good about. It could be something as simple as
learning to swim to researching and executing a project that impacted
thousands of people. This is one of the exercises that Richard Bolles
uses in What Color Is Your Parachute. It is a timeless
exercise because it provides an organic way for clients to identify
skills that they enjoy using in a work or career setting. One such
story a client recently wrote was from age three. She and her family
were vacationing in Greece. She was in the ocean in an inner tube. Her
parents were close by, but her father was a little farther out in the water.
She did not know how to swim, but she saw her father and knew that
she had to find a way to get to him. She had a problem to solve. If
she kicked her feet it would propel her to move forward toward her
father. When she got in the water, she didn't have a clue how to make
herself move. But by solving the problem and seeing the end result of
how to get to Dad, she accomplished her goal and was rewarded with a
proud smile. Her next story was age four and the prominent skill was
again problem-solving. In deciding what skills she MUST use in her
next career, her choice of stories is clear – she must use
problem-solving skills to love what she does in her work. Although she
had always understood this to be a skill she enjoyed, writing the
stories offered additional clarification, which increased her confidence
in the process.
These examples illustrate small pieces of the
career design puzzle. They emphasize the need to do the inner work
necessary to ultimately find a niche that will take you down the
Career Happiness path.
Shell Mendelson, founder of NB Careers, specializes in guiding individuals with Career ADD and Career Paralysis to define an authentic career direction.
Thanks to Shell Mendelson / Careerealism
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