Not my Job

By ELIZABETH GARONE

 Q: I'm in a bit of an awkward situation with my boss who is a high-powered attorney and I'm not sure what to do. For the past few weeks, he has been asking me to do things that are in no way part of my job description, like picking up his kids at camp and then babysitting them at the office until the end of the day or fetching his dry cleaning. I'm pretty sure that things will go back to normal once his wife returns (she's out of town), but in the meantime I feel very uncomfortable playing the part of personal assistant when I was hired as a receptionist.?

New York, N.Y.

A: Your boss doesn't quite qualify for a lead role in this summer's Horrible Bosses, but he's clearly taking advantage of you. What's worse: you're letting him.

Stop it!

Always saying yes to his outrageous requests – and they are outrageous, by the way – may be hurting your career prospects.

Christine Riordan, dean of the University of Denver's Daniels College of Business, studied the careers of more than 1,500 people over a 20-year period, and found that employees who are too nice or accommodating can be perceived less favorably by the very people they are trying to impress: their supervisors.

"Being too nice can deter your career progress and muddle your effectiveness as a leader," she says. Her research also showed that employees who are too likeable and too trusting receive lower salaries and fewer promotions. "It's all about balance," she says.That things will "go back to normal," as you put it, once your boss's wife returns, is about as likely as your boss treating you as an equal – not very.

If it's not picking up the kids or his dry cleaning, it will be something else. You've become an "office wife but with none of the benefits of an equal marriage," says Shawn Achor, author of The Happiness Advantage and a positive-psychology expert.

It's time to set some boundaries.

Start by having a candid conversation with your boss. Explain your expectations regarding your role, responsibilities and activities, suggests Ms. Riordan. This will help you pin down what's within the range of normal for your job. "Don't be afraid to ask questions, or for an explanation of your activities," she says.

If you can get a sense of what your boss is thinking, you'll be in a much better position to make an informed decision about your own future.

Most likely, it will come down to three choices. You stand up for yourself and let your boss know what you will and won't do; you decide that you actually like the breaks from answering the phones and you keep doing it; or you find yourself another job.

Whatever you choose, relish the fact that you made up your own mind. Your job is to do your job, not to be a pushover.

Good Vision in a Downpour

By A.K.Rajakumar

Here is some valuable advise that may help you drive in stormy conditions.

How to achieve good vision while driving during a heavy downpour. We are not sure why it is so effective; just try this method when it rains heavily.

This method was told by a Police friend who had experienced and confirmed it.

It is useful...even driving at night.

Most of the motorists would turn on HIGH or FASTEST SPEED of the wipers during heavy downpour, yet the visibility in front of the windscreen is still bad...... In the event you face such a situation, just try your SUN GLASSES (any model will do), and miracle! All of a sudden, your visibility in front of your windscreen is perfectly clear, as if there is no rain.

Make sure you always have a pair of SUN GLASSES in your car, as you are not Only helping yourself to drive safely with good vision, but also might save Your friend's life by giving him this idea..

This even works in a blinding snow storm, you can even see the tracks of another vehicle long after it has been through.

Do you have the X factor

By Mayur Bardolia NLP Practitioner Hypnotherapist

 

Almost, all of my clients for counseling and success coaching want to reach to their goal as quickly as possible. Now, who doesn't want to reach to the top. I do help them to reach to their goal quicker than they could ever imagine. I found one very important factor in every peak performers. What is that`X-Factor' what makes them exceptionally best performer? Now, I would like to give you that `X-factor' tool as a gift today to get you to your desired destination quicker. 

Which is ……..

E X c I t e m e n t !

eXcitement is the key to unlocking not only your inner motivational engine but also it creates end numbers of possibilities and opportunities. Excitement is the thing which differentiates competent and excellent person, also between doer and getter. Skill without eXcitement leads to an average personality. On the other hand,eXcitement without skill, if cultivated, can lead not only to the development of skill but it also opens the doors of creativity. 

I would like to ask a question to evaluate how promising your success will be.

Ask yourself, "Am I really excited about this!!".

If your answer is anything other than an enthusiastic "Yes!", you are most probably already experiencing the combination of boredom and pain. So what are the keys to unleashing the eXcitement factor in your life,work, and relationships?

1.  Get eXcited about the End Result One question most of the people ask me "Why do I write such articles?".I reply that it gives me  an unexplainable feelings. It gives me satisfaction and happiness of bringing transformation in someone's life. I don't know how many lives I have transformed or not but it motivates me to keep doing every week no matter how busy I am .

You also have to be eXcited to thrive for your end result.It should make you sleepless to motivate you to fulfill your dreams. Some people can't sleep well because it really excites them to see their dreams fulfilled with their eyes opened and most of them wake-up fresh in next morning.

2.   Get eXcited about the Process I want you to enjoy flow of life & work.You will automatically find Happiness and satisfaction in whatever you are doing. Take every experience or project as an experiment and thus you will not only focus on creating specific results but also you will learn what works and what doesn't work and you know that's what life is all about.Learning & Experiencing.For how long you will feel anger, frustration and complaining about
others and situations.

3. Get eXcited about the Big Picture Sometimes you may not feel eXcited about the result and process. Now,you must have a life purpose. Create big picture by thinking big and doing big. When you wish to achieve something big, it really eXcites you. How what you are doing fits into your life or life purpose? I teach an exercise in my success coaching and training seminars, which gives you an opportunity to re-evaluate your work, lives, and relationships in the larger context of what matters the most to you. After doing this exercise regularly, you will be really surprised to feel how mundane work is transformed into joyful play. Do the following exercise:

Part One

1. Prepare the list of activities, projects or work you do   which eXcites you.

2. Tick off if you are eXcited by the result, process and big picture or not.

 Part Two

1. Prepare the list of activities, projects or work you feel you need to do for your happiness, success, and well-being which do not yet eXcite you.

2. For each thing on your list, ask yourself "What could eXcite me about this?" or "If I was eXcited about this, what would be different?"

3. If you can't come up with anything, go through the 3 keys mentioned before until you find something which really eXcites you.

I have found it, when I started working on it at the same time and same place. Do it NOW!!!

Five Signs Your Resume Is Passe

By: Tania Khadder

The workplace is not what it was five years ago. Neither is the job hunt. The most successful candidates are those who are ready and willing to adapt to a changing landscape. But it doesn’t matter how ready you are for the modern workplace if your resume ’s straight out of 1994. 

And sometimes, it’s the most minute details that make all the difference. Does your resume speak to the modern hiring manager? Or does it need a serious makeover? Your resume  might be passé if …

1.You’ve forced it to fit onto one page.

You’ve reduced your font size to eight, eliminated margins altogether and left out key information about yourself, all to conform to that age-old “one page résumé” rule. Big mistake. After all, would a recent college grad really need the same amount of resume  real estate as someone who’s been in the workforce for twenty years? Of course not.

Don’t get me wrong: Your resume  should be concise. Recruiters are busy people—they don’t have time or the patience for long-winded career chronologies. But if your experience warrants two pages, by all means, don’t limit yourself to one.

2. You list an objective.

Of course you’re looking to gain more experience in the field/sector/type of company to which you’re applying. Your interest in the job implies that. Do you really need to say it at the very top of your resume? At this point in the selection process, hiring managers are far more interested in what you can do for them than what they can do for you.

If you want to explain why you’re applying for the job, say so in your cover letter. Resume space is far too valuable to waste on information that is both redundant and inconsequential.

3. You write “References available upon request” at the bottom.

Once again, a waste of valuable space. Do you really need to say so? The hiring manager can only assume that if they ask you for references, you’ll provide them. What, are you going to say “no?”

Instead, prepare a list of references with contact details and your relationship to each. Hold onto it until you’re further along in the selection process—you don’t want to annoy your referees with repeated contact by employers who are less than serious about you. Most respectable employers wouldn’t bother to contact a reference until they are fully ready to make you an offer.

4. You attach it to your email as a Word document.

While you’re unlikely to be penalized for emailing a Word document, there’s a lot to be said for converting it to a PDF before sending. 

A PDF document just looks neater. And even if you’ve gone crazy with the formatting, it will show up correctly on the hiring manager’s computer no matter what their settings, Word version, or font inventory. Besides, do you really want those squiggly red lines showing up under your former company’s name? Stick to PDF. It’s the only surefire way to display your resume exactly as you intended it.

5. You list every job you’ve ever had in chronological order.

In the olden days, the person with the most experience got the job. Nowadays, the person who’s most talented, has the most relevant skill set, and has proven to be most valuable to his or her former employers gets the job.

If you want to be that person, make sure your resume says so. Don’t list jobs that are irrelevant to the one you’re applying for just to fill up space. Instead, expand on the jobs that are relevant. Focus on measurable achievements in each role as opposed to a play-by-play of your daily responsibilities.