Money cannot buy everything

 

 

This story is about a beautiful, expensively dressed lady who complained to her psychiatrist that she felt that her whole life was empty, it had no meaning.

So, the lady went to visit a counselor to seek out happiness. The counselor called over the old lady who cleaned the office floors. The counselor then said to the rich lady"I'm going to ask Mary here to tell you how she found happiness. All I want you to do is listen to her."

So the old lady put down her broom and sat on a chair and told her story:"Well, my husband died of malaria and three months later my only son was killed by a car. I had nobody... I had nothing left. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat,I never smiled at anyone, I even thought of taking my own life.

Then one evening a little kitten followed me home from work. Somehow I felt sorry for that kitten. It was cold outside, so I decided to let the kitten in. I got it some milk, and the kitten licked the plate clean.

Then it purred and rubbed against my leg and for the first time in months, I smiled. Then I stopped to think, if helping a little kitten could make me smile, maybe doing something for people could make me happy.

So the next day I baked some biscuits and took them to a neighbor who was sick in bed.

Every day I tried to do something nice for someone. It made me so happy to see them happy.
Today, I don't know of anybody who sleeps and eats better than I do. I've found happiness, by giving it to others.

When she heard that the rich lady cried. She had everything that money could buy, but she had lost the things which money cannot buy.

GIVE TIME TO YOUR FAMILY

By Stephan

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.”

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. “What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked. 

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. “I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.” She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, “she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed. 

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered. 

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.” 

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”

Oh boss, help me to stay here !

By Vinod Bidwaik

I always surprise why all HR related matters are placed on HR table. Off course, it is the responsibility of HR to look into all HR related matters. But most of the times, HR is not responsible for all HR related issues. Employees work with their team and line manager for more than 8 hours. The real issues are with this. Most of the times their line managers are responsible for HR issues in the organization. 

You must have identified few reasons during exit interviews. The list goes like this:

a) Compensation

b) Learning opportunities

c) More responsibilities

d) Organizational Culture

e) Employer Brand.

There can be other factors apart from this. The exit interviews are conducted by some junior HR person, mostly getting filled the exit interview format.

When I had grilled such employees, most of the times, the reasons which I find which nobody wanted to put officially are as under:

Relationship with bosses: 

 

The fact of the life is bitter and compensation is definitely important. But when any employee decides to change the job as per the market he gets 25-30% rise on his current CTC. And the cases I have seen most of the times are not the compensation. It is the boss, line managers who are responsible for the attrition. 

 

New learning opportunities is the another reason employees tell. The programmer ends up doing the same job what he was doing in his earlier company. The maintenance engineer gets the title of Executive Maintenance, not adding any further value to his personality. Off course every experience is the learning.

Employees are like elephants. They remember and they act. You need to manage them properly. Sometimes, employees need emotional support. When you takes extra care of new employee and ignores old employee, he get hurts. Logically new employees struggle to create their position in the organization and hence may be more effective than old employees. But most of the managers favour this behaviour and give more weightage to the. The “left out feeling” creates dissatisfaction.

Generally speaking, when any employee leaves the organization, he assumes that he is going to get 4 more things in new company assuming that 10 things what he is getting here will also be available in new company. But when he joins there, he comes to know that yes he is getting 4 more things, but missing almost 4 another things which he was getting in his earlier company. 4 things, which can be more important in totality. That can be respect, culture, challenges, and even may be other benefits.

When line manger and off course HR will be able to gauge these factors, attrition can have little impact.

 

Accepting a counter offer? Who is the real winner?

By Tony Haley

Accepting a counter-offer is not a good long-term decision for you. It simply fixes a short-term problem for your current employer.

Assuming you are already employed, when you accept a new job the resignation will have to follow. This is often a bit of a dilemma to many because it is the most emotional aspect of finding a new job; quitting your old one. What will they say? Will they offer me more money? Will they beg me not to go? Will they be sorry but professional and wish me all the best? Will they be pleased to see me go?

Let’s assume they make you a counter-offer. Should you accept it? A lot of this decision is based around how much they are offering you to stay, after all everyone has their price and money was probably what encouraged you to look for a new job in the first place, but should you accept it?

Who benefits most from you accepting the counter-offer? You? Your current employer? Your potential employer who just offered you a new job?

You don’t but you might not realise it for a while. The company who offered you the job don’t because they thought enough of you to offer you an attractive job and salary, invested time into getting you only to see you talked out of it. (Mind you, if you are that easy to be bought back, they might actually benefit by not getting you).

Your current employer benefits but not because of what you think. They don’t benefit because they get to keep you. In fact the chances are that your cards are marked and they probably won’t trust you again. They benefit because they don’t have an immediate problem of you leaving and not having a replacement ready. By accepting a counter offer, you have fixed a short term problem for your employer but it is not a good long term solution for you. Statistically, it is likely that you will leave the company within the next 6 months either because all the reasons that made you look for another job in the first place are still there or they don’t need you anymore and the decision is not yours.

Don’t accept another job unless you are 100% convinced it is the best move for your career at that time and once you have made that decision, stick to it. Don’t be tempted to stay. If they thought you were really worth the extra money, why didn’t they pay you that in the first place?